Give Them Their Flowers Now
I am the husband to the most amazing wife. My wife Grace personifies that name in so many ways. She is beautiful, intelligent, loves the Lord with all her heart and His word is her prized treasure. She is a wonderful mother to our two girls Jadyn and Ava. I couldn’t imagine life without her. She truly is amazing Grace!
I am the father to two of the sweetest, funniest, tender hearted, playful and sometimes down right ornery girls. I love them with all my heart. There is nothing I wouldn’t do for my girls. The times we get to share together playing, talking, being goofy and silly and those nightly prayers and discussions about God’s word are memories that I will cherish for ever and continue to pursue with them as long as I am alive.
Last night I was up late working on school work (and keeping an eye on the NFL draft…Chicago and Kansas City what were you thinking?) and all was quiet in the house as everyone was fast asleep (trust me that is the only time it is quite in our house). I went first to my wife and I’s bed room and watched her as she slept for a few moments. Man I married up! I thanked God he blessed me with her. Then I went and peaked in on my girls, angels is the best way I could describe them as they slept. My heart was so full I wanted to wake them both up right then and tell them how much I loved them and what a blessing from God each one is.
I am also a son to two wonderful parents. My mom and dad just celebrated 48 years of marriage on April 19th. My Dad showed my how to work hard and provide for your family. My Mom showed me how to love and how to see people to truly see people and to put myself in their shoes. I am a brother to a man I love deeply and would do anything for and I know he would do anything for me.
Unfortunately I think far too often I take all that for granted. I can get so busy and so caught up in other things that I lose sight of the most precious people in my life. Listen a wise man once told me “don’t wait until the funeral to give them their flowers”. Don’t wait until its to late to show them you love them. Take a moment today and tell your family members you love them. Stop everything your doing and call your mom or dad if you still have the blessing to do so. When you get home today look your wife or husband in the eye and tell them what they mean to you. Go to your kids or give them a call and tell them what your proud of them for, encourage them, allow the words I love you to come out of your mouth. Give them their flowers now – tell them, show them how much they mean to you. Don’t take them or this moment or this day for granted.
For those of you who can’t call or go visit your parents or children or loved ones because they have gone from this world I am sure all of you if you could get just one more day with them wouldn’t spend it sitting across from them on your smart phone but would be engaged in conversation and would make sure to tell them what all you didn’t while they were here. Many of us still have that opportunity by the grace of God and I implore you to take it, take it right now. You have the opportunity to do what so many can’t!
I am reminded of a story a once heard:
Speaker Bob Perks was at an airport when he ‘overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, “I love you. I wish you enough.” She in turn said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy.”
They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”
“Yes, I have,” I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.
So I knew what this man was experiencing.
“Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?” I asked.
“I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral,” he said.
“When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?”
He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more.”When we said ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them,” he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.
“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Goodbye.”
Friends I wish you enough today and I pray you won’t wait until the funeral to give your loved ones their flowers. Give them a bouquet of I love you’s, thank you’s, I am proud of you’s and wrap them in encouragements today – don’t take them for granted…they and every second we have with them are a gift from God!
Everything in the world is about to be wrapped up, so take nothing for granted. Stay wide-awake in prayer. Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything. Be quick to give a meal to the hungry, a bed to the homeless—cheerfully. Be generous with the different things God gave you, passing them around so all get in on it: if words, let it be God’s words; if help, let it be God’s hearty help. That way, God’s bright presence will be evident in everything through Jesus, and he’ll get all the credit as the One mighty in everything—encores to the end of time. Oh, yes! – 1 Peter 4:7-11 MSG